The discussion was what phrases people are tired of hearing. It’s so easy to become exasperated with certain phrases that are commonly used, however relevant, they can become tired, worn and some even relegated to a list to be ridiculed.

For me, it’s not so much each phrase but the conscious or mindful intent or lack of it that I’m sensitive to.One person can say ” it is what it is” as a way of choosing not to engage, not letting the mind run down an old, habitual and unhelpful track.

Unfortunately
“When I was your age…”
“It’s just a stage….”
“My how you’ve grown.”
most often accompany a superior / patronising attitude or intent.

My own sensitivity around clarity and sincerity of intent behind words reminds me of the phrase from old Western films, “white man speak with forked tongue”, whoever wrote that line would love this topic.

Whilst I may notice a lack of congruence between the words used and my sense of the real meaning behind the words, it’s calling it in the right spirit which I can find tricky. 

I like his clearing check list.

If your answer is something negative (or not a good feeling), you aren’t clear.

If you say anything except an honest “I know it’s on the way to me”, you probably aren’t clear inside. (clear of an unhelpful belief)

Next ask yourself
“What does it mean that you don’t yet have what you want?” The answer to that question will reveal your beliefs.

For example if you say
“I have to do … before I can have what I want”

means you have a belief that you have to do … before you can have what you want.

I personally found it wonderfully revealing!

On page 48 he says
Me and Jonathan made a pact that said
“Whenever I’m not clear, I am to call him.” Then whenever I let something in life throw me for a tailspin, I would call him.  ( he (Joe) had originally gone to see Jonathan once a month realised he needed weekly sessions and then settled on calling as and when he needed)

I (Sue) was thinking I’d like to do the same with a friend and just in saying that, it makes me more aware and I catch and look at / dissolve or change whatever the old belief is /was. Also less need to call anyway. If it helps you could do the same.

Then I closed my eyes and had a flash of a program schedule and clearly saw the words

The Fisher King

The meaning I saw in the film was this,
Robin Williams keeps encountering a fearsome warrior on horseback each time (I realised) he feels love. His girlfriend in the film we discover was killed in an explosion in a restaurant so love for him was traumatically entwined with fear.

Until he allows himself to feel love again and then the warrior is gone.

The Fisher King, one of those films that has mixed reviews (= opinions / beliefs) but that had a great message for me.

Quote from The Fisher King

“It begins with the king as a boy, having to spend the night alone in the forest to prove his courage so he can become king. Now while he is spending the night alone he’s visited by a sacred vision. Out of the fire appears the holy grail, symbol of God’s divine grace. And a voice said to the boy, “You shall be keeper of the grail so that it may heal the hearts of men.” But the boy was blinded by greater visions of a life filled with power and glory and beauty. And in this state of radical amazement he felt for a brief moment not like a boy, but invincible, like God, so he reached into the fire to take the grail, and the grail vanished, leaving him with his hand in the fire to be terribly wounded. Now as this boy grew older, his wound grew deeper. Until one day, life for him lost its reason. He had no faith in any man, not even himself. He couldn’t love or feel loved. He was sick with experience. He began to die. One day a fool wandered into the castle and found the king alone. And being a fool, he was simple minded, he didn’t see a king. He only saw a man alone and in pain. And he asked the king, “What ails you friend?” The king replied, “I’m thirsty. I need some water to cool my throat”. So the fool took a cup from beside his bed, filled it with water and handed it to the king. As the king began to drink, he realized his wound was healed. He looked in his hands and there was the holy grail, that which he sought all of his life. And he turned to the fool and said with amazement, “How can you find that which my brightest and bravest could not?” And the fool replied, “I don’t know. I only knew that you were thirsty.”

 

Here in Surrey it has been the most beautiful spring day.

Warm, and sunny. 

Isn’t the warmth of the sun just wonderful after the winter?

The birds are truly in full song. 

I walked Ellie, our cocker spaniel the two and a half miles round the block, down a country lane and past fields ready for planting, the trees and hedgerows are beginning to tint green, and the walk has left me feeling full of gratitude.

Almost everyone we passed on our walk seemed more cheerful and ready to stop for a while, rather than rush on.

Ok, the weatherman say’s it’s going to snow over the weekend as air comes down from the arctic, and, today has been a gift.

I’m grateful for the following quotation by Melody Beattie

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.
It turns what we have into enough, and more.
It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow”.

Quotation by Marcel Proust

The extract that follows is from an interview by Deborah King, there is also a book Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew, Ph.D Len

Beyond traditional means

Proven so effective that she (Mornah Simiona) has been invited to teach this method at the United Nations, the World Health Organization and at institutions of healing throughout the world.

We are the sum total of our experiences, which is to say that we are burdened by our pasts. When we experience stress or fear in our lives, if we would look carefully, we would find that the cause is actually a memory. It is the emotions which are tied to these memories which affect us now. The subconscious associates an action or person in the present with something that happened in the past. When this occurs, emotions are activated and stress is produced.”She continues, “The main purpose of this process is to discover the Divinity within oneself. The Ho’oponopono is a profound gift which allows one to develop a working relationship with the Divinity within and learn to ask that in each moment, our errors in thought, word, deed or action be cleansed. The process is essentially about freedom, complete freedom from the past.”An extract from An interview with …
Morrnah Simeona and Dr. Stan Hew Len*
by Deborah King

It’s not just homes, I wondered what percentage of this 45% are the albeit pretty lights left on in office buildings in every town and city across-the-globe?  All the machines in homes and offices using juice in standby mode?

How can more of us remember to turn each light off?

Saving electricity isn’t really meaningful for many, but what about “I turn this light off for my daughter Andrea and her children”, or “I shut down this computer for my friend Carol and this one for Ena”?

It’s so easy to have different and contradictory measures. What difference does this one light make, but we easily remember to collect a few vouchers at a time for school computers or remember to claim the points as we pay for our petrol or gas.

If a loved one is sick we do what we can to make them better, we turn down the light, bring a cool drink if they have a temperature, or a warm blanket if they have a chill. 

This truly amazing and exquisitely beautiful planet needs us to lower the temperature for her and remember to switch the lights and power off, to turn the heat down.

I believe beautiful art and quotations with a sincere or healthy intent, can and do offer and have, a profoundly positive affect.   Can certainly be and are, life enhancing, can also be life changing and have a lasting affect.

I have been reading (or rather dipping in and out of ) A Course in Miracles recently. I was struck by a statement that, giving and receiving are one.

As with many quotes or quotations, there was that insight of fresh understanding, as if  a door opens and there is that middle ground between the opposites of labels and concepts that are needed for anything human made, truth seems to exist somewhere beyond.

More peace in the world, hmmm sounds good doesn’t it?

Maybe by just one thought at a time, or rather one intent at a time, the more sincere the better. Each one moment where there is a vibrational energy shift in one more human being, that adds up to something.

I’ve begun to use the phrase “to everyone I give peace” just quietly to myself, or out loud when I’m alone and I feel more peaceful. Not 24 / 7 but more of  the time, and I feel as if I am experiencing more peace in my life, some may say it’s subjective, but more peace feel good to me.

To everyone I give peace.